Wednesday, March 10, 2010

The Relatives are Here!

My brother-in-law and his family have come over for spring break week.  This is the first visit since we've split up the home and it is certainly going to be different. 

For starters we have not been invited to my MIL at all.  To be fair they moved into a small patio home and I think the idea of having 11 of us altogether in her small home is overwhelming. Still, it seems somewhat odd to not be allowed to go over and pop by.  Which means that they are going to be coming here.  That's fine only I can't imagine them spending the whole day over here so the kids can play together and yet I definitely do not want the drop and run technique to be happening.  

Too many times I got stuck with all five of the kids because my BIL was busy and my SIL was still sleeping.  It was easier for their kids to come downstairs so it'd be quiet upstairs.  While I can be sympathetic at times and feel for their situation, her health etc, I cannot help but feel resentful at times too.  There are a lot of times that I've had little to no sleep and not once did I sleep until 1:00 p.m. leaving my inlaws to care for my children, especially if I was a guest in their home.  

Plus they don't help out at all.  They certainly have not learned the play date etiquette of getting your child to help clean up before you leave thing.  They stopped by for an hour today and as we were showing them the house, we all noted the mess that their son and mine had made in O's room.  They even laughed as they said it was most likely their boy who tossed all the toy bins around etc.  Did they offer to help pick up before they left? Nope.  Pretty much the way it goes all the time.

So they will be spending the day tomorrow and it will be interesting to see how much they get on my nerves when they have nothing to fall back on.  Usually my BIL would disappear and watch sports on t.v. or spend a lot of time on the computer.  He can't exactly do that at our house.  Although I would not put it past him to commandeer the t.v.  I could also see him sending his wife and the kids by himself while he gets the day off with his parents.  That would be just like him.  

Do you have people like this in your life?  People that you care about but drive you crazy because they are completely absorbed in their own lives.  The whole time they were looking at our house (first time they'd seen it), they were comparing and discussing a town house they had seen on the weekend.  We tell them that O's potty trained, they don't even say that's great... they immediately jump into discussing their son's potty training issues.  

Sigh... it never changes.  They are family and I am supposed to love them and I really try to be patient and understanding but underneath it all.... I just want to scream.


  1. Time to think of a sudden emergency!! Run out the door, frantic, your best friend needs you, whatever, shout that you have your cell phone (turn it off) and say (lie) that you'll be back asap. And thank them for watching the kids for a bit as you leave. Now, go get a coffee and a pedicure!!

  2. Good luck to you :)

    Stopping by via SITS to say hello.
    Enjoy the rest of your day.

  3. OK, Kristy's suggestion is SPOT ON! I would sooo do that, let them know how joyous the drop and run is.

    Good luck hon!

  4. OMG! Kristy is an evil genius! That's brilliant!

    I was going to say I don't have anyone, and it dawned on me: my FIL! When he comes to town or when we visit, he's always trying to get alone time with my husband, leaving me with the kids. Not to mention he expects Evan and Sean to be quiet and calm ALL THE TIME. Dude, they're 4 and 2. They're calm when they sleep. You and I could compare notes.


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