Thursday, August 6, 2009

Have you heard about Blog With Integrity?

Have you heard about the buzz around the blogging community about things that had apparently been going on at the Blogher event?

It seems that some mommy bloggers are creating bad names for the rest of us by their sheer rudeness. Busy Mom tweeted that "2009 is the year that shame died". You can read the rest of the post by Mom-101 here. Believe me it makes for such a good read that I clicked on link after link reading the stories. One sponsor was threatened with negative posts if he didn't give her free shoes... read here. A baby got elbowed in the head from some woman trying to jump in and grab free product. Rude mommy bloggers who'd interrupt conversations to press their own cards and product on them and it goes on and on.

I am absolutely flabbergasted that people would act like this. When did we develop such a sense of entitlement? If someone wants to send me something.. wow that's awesome. Just because they don't doesn't mean they deserve to be slammed.

My biggest fear for my kids is that they will be lazy and they too will think that the world should be handed to them on a platter. Because we see it time and time again. Minimum wage here is $8.00 an hour. This is not a wage to support your family on unless you are working two jobs but it's a decent wage for school kids. Yet these school kids constantly complain about how much they have to work for that $8.00 an hour. Excuse me, mopping the floor and dusting in a video store is a breeze job in comparison to what their friends are going through at McDonald's.

My own cousin would sit her ass on the stool behind the counter and complain about how boring the job was. Excuse me? It's a video store. We have 6000 videos, watch a movie, clean, organize. Whatever. I'm pretty easy going. As long as the basic chores are done and customers taken care off, entertain yourself. Don't complain. You are getting paid to be there.

I remember my own nephew at age 10. He really wanted a hamster but needed to earn some money. My brother suggested that maybe he could do some chore for me. I said sure, I had this tall grass patch in my garden that needed to be pulled. I get both him and his sister over there in the garden pulling this grass out which is really easy to pull because the soil was so loose. I was even in there helping. Only they complained the entire time. He wanted to spend like 5 minutes doing it and get 10 bucks. Are you kidding me? I was totally disappointed but I didn't want to be the hard case aunty.

My nephew is now 15 and working this summer with his dad for the first time who is in construction and my brother's biggest thing is that he wants his son not to stand around doing nothing. When he's done what he's been asked to do that he checks what else he can be doing. I hope it's going better.

My cousins kids. One is a hard worker, one isn't. So how am I going to teach all three of my kids good work ethics? Because it can't just be by example. Those above examples, their parents are all hard working diligent people.

I'd really like to know if any of you with older kids have any good suggestions or reading material suggestions because I am at a complete blank on how to teach my kids this.

Obviously I went off on a tangent. What I wanted to get to was this... Blog with Integrity was launched last week. I believe it provides us all with a reminder of how we should be acting and what we are all here for.

I have added the button to my sidebar. Check it out of you'd like because I think we should all be blogging with integrity.

Unfortunately, those of us who sign the pledge are most likely the ones already treating one another with dignity and respect. The ones that really need to read it and sign it... they are oblivious to their behaviour.

I'd like to tell those women to grow up and remember your manners!


  1. I agree with your stance on this particular subject. I wish I could have gone to Blogher and just have been proud to be with my bloggie friends, that I have never met in person.
    Not to call you out, check your post title.

  2. The Twilight Series is fantastic. Not that it's educational at all. I think you have to be careful though, I always had a strong work ethic but it was because I revered my work-aholic absent father. I still struggle with balancing it all and keeping my family first.

  3. I completely agree. My husband and I have very strong work ethic and we want to pass this on to the kids.

    I don't think there's any one thing you do to teach this. I think you make requests of your children and expect that those requests are completed properly and in a timely fashion. When this isn't done, then there are appropriate consequences (like you get to keep doing it until it's done right - even if that means the 15 minute task takes an hour and a half)... My experience (though my eldest is only 11 so take with a grain of salt) is that if they can see the consequence of whatever behavior you're trying to discourage, they usually come around...

  4. Wow, that's very interesting. I'm off to check out Blog with Integrity now. I've got 2 14 year old boys, so I'm working on the attitude and earning money thing. I'll let you know if I come up with any good ideas!

  5. Wow! I didn't know that all went on at Blogher. Of course, I didn't really know what exactly went on there to begin with being as I haven't been blogging that long. That is so sad!

    Oh, I had originally come here to tell you that you have an award on my page to pick up! :)

  6. whoops I had a typo in the title. Thanks for pointing it out! :)

  7. Here I thought it was just LA and Orange County. It's sad to watch people be so self-absorbed, so entitled. I'm not sure how one instills ANY traits in kids. But I'm hoping I figure it out. Of course, kids will be kids, and most of them need to slide their face on asphult as a buddy of mine says.

  8. I had a yard full of tall grass and needed it pulled. I hired the teenage kids of a co-worker to do yard work for $8.00 per hour and heard nothing but complaints for 5 hours. They decided not to come back the following weekend to complete the job (the job was too hard and too dirty). So I hired the 14 year old son of Mexican immigrants to replace them and paid him the same rate. He worked his butt off and kept coming back the following weekends to help with other yard work. What a difference in attitude!


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