Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Have you ever bought something and then hid it from your husband because you thought he'd be upset that you spent the money?

I used to watch Til' Death do Us Part where women would buy tons of stuff and hide it from their spouse.   I never got it.  How could you be so irresponsible as to rack up the credit cards and then lie to your husband about it? Better yet, hope that he doesn't notice those new shoes or outfit you're wearing.

Maybe because we've always been just getting by, I just don't know what it's like to have the kind of income to just go and blow a few hundreds of dollars on myself without thinking twice about it.  Maybe those people don't stop and weigh the consequences of just one more item vs buying milk for the kids or making the mortgage payment.

But I digress.

Because that's just what I did.

Only it wasn't something so mundane as clothing or shoes or even jewelry.

It was for eye glasses.

Now that doesn't seem unreasonable, after all I do need to be able to see and trust me I do need an updated prescription.  The only teensy weensy bit irresponsible thing I did was not surrender my old frames and have them fitted for the new prescription.

I did initially try to purchase online but because my prescription wasn't straight forward and confusing, I was afraid of ordering the wrong thing and turns out I would have.

Still even with purchasing the cheapest of frames, they cost me just under $1,000.00.
Yup.  $1,000 for glasses and they are not even that fancy.  It took three payments for me to pay them off over several weeks but I managed to do it and I can now see so much better.

It's not like he would begrudge me the glasses, it's just that when I came home and told him how much they were his reaction was basically we couldn't afford it and I should look into buying two cheaper sets of glasses online that I would have to switch on and off depending on the task instead of getting progressives.  I didn't expect that reaction and being the big chicken that I am, I didn't have the heart to tell him I already ordered them.

I actually hid the glasses for a week before I realized that I was being stupid.  What was the point of spending the money if I wasn't going to wear them.  So I put them on and you know what?  He never even noticed.


Friday, October 9, 2015

Do You Know How Lucky You Are?

Judgemental_mum_476x290I am extremely tired of parents of so called “normal” children who choose to remain ignorant about what it must be like to have a special needs child.  They sit on their little thrones and pass judgment on these children who don’t fit the norm.  A kid acts up in the hallway, they roll their eyes at the other parents in the hallway.  They will even stand around and say things like “God, that kid is a nightmare.”  When a parent was confronted by her child’s continually bullying of another child, her basic response was “But my kid thinks your kid is weird”.  And…. that justifies what?

In a casual conversation about picky eaters from sensory issues, one parent pipes in with kids should eat what they’re given or go hungry.  When I tune in with that it’s not always possible to be rigid like that because of sensory issues it waved off with a “bah, I don’t believe in that stuff.”  You don’t believe in that stuff?  It’s not like we’re talking about the tooth fairy or Santa Clause.  Thousands of children are just making it up and their gullible parents are buying into it?  I also see that your child is being given a weight belt and ear phones during class time to help keep him grounded.  Oh right, you don’t believe in that stuff so the teacher shouldn’t be helping him. Wiggle seats – throw those out the window.

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Life on the Spectrum

aspergers-disorderAs my daughter gets older, it gets harder to walk the line of what is and isn’t acceptable behaviour.  When she was 5 or 6, a tantrum or excessive display of anger or frustration was easier to sweep under the rug and just chalk up to her age; however, disrupting the outburst may have been.  But then when she was 5 or 6, we didn’t know she was on the Autism Spectrum. 
When she’s 12; however, explosive outbursts and stomping of feet is no longer so easier to ignore or let slide by.  Unfortunately, now that we know she has Aspergers it’s not like we suddenly have deep wells of patience.  We get just as much pissed off and frustrated by her behaviour as we do for the children without it. 

Friday, October 2, 2015

Minecraft Birthday Party

Has Minecraft taken over your household?  It certainly has mine.  I was completely resistant at first to the whole idea of Minecraft.  At first I thought it was some sort of fighting or war game which I refuse to allow my children to play.   However, my husband researched Minecraft and with the help of the neighbour children, it was explained to me that playing Minecraft in creative mode is about building and exploring only.  So while it may be harmless fun, I’m not sure about the hours that my son plays building and them blowing things up.  I don't really get the attraction but there it is.

So when my soon to be 8 year old wanted a party it had to be Minecraft.  Fortunately, it was a pretty easy theme to decorate for what with pixelated graphics, a black, green and brown colour scheme.  Of course, my first start is to check out Pinterest for ideas and a quick visit to Party Palace to see what was available.


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